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Tablo is Haru’s dad

2014/11/16

I read an article on Soompi saying that Haru went to one of Epik High’s concerts, so Tablo changed out some of the F bombs in the lyrics. Which I thought was cute, but then I read the comments (“and broke a major rule of engagement”, I guess). Basically, people are commenting that he’s the best father, solely because he changed out an expletive. I mean, they’re not just saying that he’s a good father, which I’m sure he is, but they’re saying a lot of rubbish like how they wish he were their father or whatever and yeah OK.

I like Tablo, honestly, but there’s a huge difference between saying, “Aw, that’s cute,” and basically dishonoring your own parents by saying that this guy whom you don’t even know would be preferable to your own dad. I mean, just take a minute to let that sink in.

You do your dad a great disservice when you say that you wish for someone else. Words are powerful. A rapper like Tablo who has been through what he has gone through would definitely agree with me. You might think that it’s just a comment on the internet, but that shows an attitude towards your parents that statistically speaking, is probably unfair to them. Nobody’s dad is perfect. Some dads really do suck, like maybe they ditched your mom before you were born or they were really disgusting scumbags or something. In that case, you can say, “I wish _ were my dad,” about whoever you want because you have a legitimate reason to look at famous fathers that way. But a lot of us, even people with divorced parents, have dads who make mistakes but still love us and and just trying to figure out what they need to do to help us be happy or successful. And we need to cut them a little slack. Being a good parent is hard, and it is emotionally taxing to the parents who do care about doing the right things. We all try so hard at so many things in a very unforgiving society where people who aren’t good enough are stomped down into the cracks. So even if Tablo makes Haru feel happier than your dad makes you feel, you shouldn’t treat your dad’s love so casually.

And then there’s the other thing about Tablo being the best dad. I know that it’s ‘just’ a hyperbole, but again, words are important. You can say that Ailee is the best idol singer in the Korean music scene because it’s an arguable point. You can set criteria with a points system (for example, sales are quantifiable, vocal range is quantifiable, and an expert panel can mark off technique, execution, et cetera), exclude all singers who are promoting in Korea or not considered an idol, and come up with Ailee as the best.  You can plug in everyone you know into an algorithm based on quality and frequency of interactions and figure out who is objectively your best friend. But who’s objectively the best dad? What makes him the best dad? Is that something that dads should have to think about? See, with singers, it’s a competition. Maybe it’s a friendly competition, but it’s a profession–you have to make money, and there’s a limited amount of money that will be spent regularly on music. To get your cut, you compete against the other person–if you’re an idol, your default is in the red so it’s in your best interest to be the best, increasing your chances of making good sales. With friends, it’s a simple ranking of who’s the closest to you, regardless of their character or personality. With dads, though, you have to compare each dad’s relationship with each kid. Each dad is different, each kid is different. Even if there were some way to quantify the quality of those relationships, the only people who could really tell you what the dad does and doesn’t do well–the kids and the moms–are simultaneously totally unqualified to judge other dads so there’d be no way to standardize it. I realize that I’m taking this case to absurdity but my point is that the term “best dad” is absurd. In answer to my question, it’s impossible to identify a man who is objectively the best dad, because dad qualities are impossible to quantify, and dads should not be exposed to the idea of a best dad.

I guess that I’m just ranting about just another piece of the growing “Whatever” trend.

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