One of my facebook friends seems to have difficulty with relationships. I mean, I’m sure a lot of people do, but I’ve never seen one for going through guys like she does. She dated one of my classmates for a time, and they broke up within the school year. Even though he didn’t show it because he’s a laid-back guy, he said that he was struggling emotionally because of the breakup. Then she was with a few other guys who were kind of acquaintances of mine. I mean, not at the same time, but sometimes breaking up and then getting back together again with the same guy, sometimes starting with a different guy. Her latest boyfriend was the first I’ve never met, so I haven’t even seen them hang out together, but if her other relationships were anything to go by, it probably was the same deal. Hanging out a lot, some kind of drama behind the scenes, and then breaking up again.
I don’t understand what she’s talking about when she says he hurt her even though she gave up her friends for him, but I commented that real friends are still there whether she thinks she gave them up or not. It seems that he left a bunch of comments after I did, saying that she was unfair and that she hurt him.
It’s really none of my business, but when I see drama, I want to know why it happens and how it could have been avoided. I understand that relationships don’t always work out. What piques my curiosity is how someone does all this drama. Even though I’m a decently dramatic person, I generally minimize drama in my own life.
How do you go through a dozen heartbreaks in a row and not see that something needs to change? Maybe I wouldn’t understand because I’ve never dated anyone. I think, though, if I were in her position (in some bizarre alternate universe), I’d try to figure out what was wrong and try to break the pattern. There are always relationships that don’t work, but even though the broken conclusion hurts, in those cases, usually one or both parties realize it’s neither’s fault. If both parties are going at it like, “You hurt me,” I think that relationship has loose ends that haven’t been properly tied off. Someone screwed something up.
OK, so I’m not qualified to analyze someone else’s emotions and whatnot.