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Marriage Values


I just saw TIME Magazine’s Jul 13 [yes, I’m a bit behind the curve], and it is one of the most pathetic things I have seen. The subtitle says, “Infidelity is eroding our most sacred institution. How to make marriage matter again.” Am I seeing correctly? We now need to be taught the sanctity of marriage? Just how sleazy has society become?

This is the traditional wedding vow I found on the Internet:

Do you, __, take __ to be your __ – to live together after God’s ordinance – in the holy estate of matrimony? Will you love _, comfort _, honor and keep _, in sickness and in health, for richer, for poorer, for better, for worse, in sadness and in joy, to cherish and continually bestow upon _ your heart’s deepest devotion, forsaking all others, keep yourself only unto _ so long as you both shall live?

This means that whoever breaks faith with his [or her] spouse is definitely not a man [or woman] of his [or her] word.
Employers, do you really want to hire people who do not keep their promises? Whenever you hire someone who has divorced before, you are signing on someone who lacks the integrity to commit to the supposed love of his [or her] life. You will not come anywhere close in that person’s affection, so do you really expect him [or her] to treat you better?

Let’s not even go into the moral aspect of cheating on one’s spouse. I hope that we can all agree that the consequences of breaking a promise should be heavier than they really are.
I do not understand how someone can change their status from “Divorced” to “Married” again. ”

“Maybe that someone did not cheat. Maybe he [or she] just ‘fell out of lov-“

Oh, shut up. A promise is a promise is a promise. No ifs, no ands, no buts. It takes two to make it: takes two to break it, and that’s all there is to it.

“Maybe the partner was the cheater.”

Maybe they should not have married in the first place if they did not realize what [or who] they were getting into [or with].
I do not understand how someone can marry someone who has divorced.

If he [or she] was the cheater, what makes you think he [or she] will not cheat on you?
If they had ‘fallen out of love’, what makes you think he [or she] will not be the same with you?
Even if he [or she] was cheated, you cannot deny that he [or she] is able to accept divorce. This kind of person does not take a marriage so much more seriously than the cheater.

I thought this only makes sense, but apparently, people, now even those no longer just ‘budding teenagers’, need to be taught how to love, how to commit, and how to keep their promises.

One Comment leave one →
  1. 2009/07/30 00:44

    I hear ya.  What’s the point of marrying someone if there is not true love involved, right?  Love should never fail!

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